Just when I’m wondering why I can’t look at people’s eyes and have a serious conversation (except during work, study and where it is professional, with less emotion), I saw a TED video few minutes ago, which kicks me on the head and let me realize why I can’t look into others’ eyes and have a deep meaningful talk.
We live in an era of virtual social contact. We are able to edit, modify or even delete the elements in our ‘conversation’, while the real face to face conversation is way more complex and immediate, and you cannot control it once you have said something.
‘We use the conversation with each other, to learn how to have conversations with ourselves.’
I personally prefer talking than texting, because talking seems more clear and you can always explain the context and background of each sentences, but still, I do have a very close relationship with my smart phone.
But she was right in the video, we always feel that no one is listening to us, that’s why we have to post on facebook, on twitter, on many different kinds of platform, where so many audiences will just be there and see your expressions. I guess that’s why so many people, especially young people, need the ‘likes’ so much.
Because every day we are listening a bit less.
But face to face conversation is so important, ‘Because it’s when we stumble or hesitate or lose our words, that we reveal ourselves to each other.’
最近陷入一个然人困惑的窘境。我发现自己不能直视对方的眼睛并进行一场有感情色彩的对话。然后五分钟前我看到一个TED视频，让我如醍醐灌顶，顿然醒悟。
虽然我个人其实更喜欢真正的人与人之间的对话，而不是通过某种虚拟的平台而交换信息，但我终究是跟我的电子设备们保持着无人能及的亲密无间。莫非这种关系悄悄地改变了我的社交能力。
我希望能看着一个人的眼睛，跟这个人认真的开展一场对话，其中不要被自己试图逃离的眼神而打扰，准确的表达我的想法。但每次身不由己的眼神逃避，都会打断我的思路，有时甚至让我笑场。
我不能确定我的手机电脑ipad是真正的罪魁祸首，但总是脱不了干系的吧。是不是应该试着疏远一下呢。
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